Hello everyone. I’ve been a busy, busy guy as of lately and figured it’s been too long since my last post. So I have something for you all today that’s on a bit of a lighter note.
This is something we all to tend to forget about throughout our lives. It seems to me that when we become adults, that in order to live, we feel like we don’t get to do anything but run the rat-race, and we forget to make time for ourselves. We all get up in the morning, or whatever time of the day it is that you wake up for that lovely shift that you always look forward to, at the job that you love so much, and it’s run, run, run, work, work, work. Obviously, as an adult, we have responsibilities and obligations that we have to take care of. There’s vehicles to maintain, there’s bills that need to be paid, the kids need clothes, the house needs food… whatever the case may be, there’s always something that needs to be done. So you get up, you shower, you go to work, you do your job, and then you go home… and then you do it all again the next day, as we all should.
But there’s SO much more to life than the rat-race. When you were a child, some may remember it, others might not, when playing was the only thing that mattered? Remember the innocence that we all had before the elements got to us? Remember how everything in the world that you saw throughout the day held some sort of fascination? Remember how everything was magickal? When was it that we lost that? We tend to forget that there’s places that we like to go, things we like to do… you know… the things that make you feel good! Where did those things go? I think you need to take back that fascination with the world, and then you’ll feel better about the things responsibilities when you have things that make you feel good to fuel what you have to do.
After so many years of having lost that, sooner or later we become this dull, lack-lustered version of ourselves. Then there always comes a time in all of our lives where we wonder where we went wrong, that there’s got to be something more than what we’re doing. After time, you find yourself getting uptight, angry, depressed, and pretty much everything else that you try your hardest not be. It’s because we forget to live, we merely start getting by and surviving.
We all need to live, not just survive.
If you’re feeling inadequate about yourself it’s because you’re not doing anything FOR yourself. When your life becomes more about the almighty dollar than actually taking care of yourself, that’s when you end up becoming nothing but a shell of yourself. At the risk of sounding just a little selfish, you have to look out for number one once in a while. You have to understand that money is going to come and money is going to go, and if you have a good enough job where you actually can stay ahead of the game a little, then please don’t forget to live so you can stockpile money and better your status in a society that really doesn’t care about you anyway. What difference does it make where you are compared to the rest of the world? Shouldn’t it really just be about how you feel about you? This isn’t the medieval times where it was all about status and how much land you had, or how big your kingdom was determined how strong you are, starting from being a stable boy to trying become a knight, or even a king.
As long as get to a point in your life where you can look at everything around you and everyone around you and know that you’re taking care of your responsibilities, and at the same time remember to take care of yourself, then you’re in good shape. It could be as simple as having a few good friends that you can go see once in a while, or going to a shooting range, or popping some popcorn and watching a good movie with someone that loves you… just remember to do whatever it is that you need to everyday to feel good about you. It doesn’t always have to cost you money, but please remember to play harder than you work.
I think I might know what some of you are thinking… “But if play too much, I’ll lose sight of the things that I need to take care of… and I don’t have enough time to do anything fun.” Well, there’s a very fine line between doing too much and not doing enough for yourself, and I’ve found that when you’re doing it best is when you flirt with that fine line all the time. You have to remember to get good sleep. You have to remember throughout your plan that whether it’s going to the bar or whatever it is, you have to remember that once again, you do have things that need to be taken care of, you CANNOT remember to live when you’re trying to make your life.
But also understand, there is a huge difference between living, and surviving. When you’re a working a job that makes you struggle because you don’t make enough, that’s when it’s time to find another place to work that’s better… not working more to compensate. Because if you don’t, then you’ll start living beyond your means, and then that’s when you dig yourself into a hole, and now you have to work harder and play less to get out of it. Whatever it is that you choose to do for work, remember these two things:
1) Do something that you love to do, and be the best that you can be at it. But remember, being the best at it doesn’t mean step on everyone to get to where you want to be, rather take your love for the job and do it for the satisfaction of doing it, advance yourself through your performance and be the best that way. It doesn’t matter if you’re a garbage collector, or an astronaut… do it because you love to do it and it makes you feel good, and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it. But also don’t be afraid to take on new opportunities as they come along.
2)Work as hard as you possibly can. If you leave your job everyday and you’re not tired from doing it, then you didn’t give enough of yourself to doing what you do. Remember, these people are paying you to be there, the least you could do is give your best, and if you’re sitting there saying that they aren’t paying you enough… then maybe it’s time to seek out that new opportunity.
Having said all of that, you have to play harder too. You have to remember that a lot like a camera, or a radio, or that iPod you listen to day in and day out, the batteries need to be recharged periodically, otherwise like those things, you won’t work either. Whether you’re a hard core gamer, or the Norm (from Cheers if any of you are don’t know who I’m talking about) of your local bar, you need to make time to do whatever it is that recharges your batteries. Everyday. Obviously, remember that we are grown people, so don’t go to bed at 3am when you have to be at work at 6am… remember to be responsible also. But if you’re giving 110% at work, then you need to be giving 160% when you play, and you do whatever it is that you feel you have to do to make it a good day.
Think about this… if you have a crappy day at work, isn’t all the more reason to go take a load off for a couple of hours? Once again, it doesn’t matter how you choose to recharge those batteries, but make sure that you do it everyday. Watch a sunset, watch a sunrise. Try to cook a dish that you’ve never made. Listen to a different kind of music that’s always enticed you. Dance in your living room like no one is watching, and do it for hours! You would be amazed at how if you were to come home pissed off about the day you had and just start dancing like you didn’t care, how long it would take for you to not care. Even if you have kids, they would love to watch to watch Mom or Dad dance like a fool in the living room! It’s pretty cool how kids soak up everything we do and act accordingly. Think about when you come home cranky from a hard day… don’t they tend to get cranky too? OR if you had a really kick ass day and you come home happy… aren’t they in a better mood for the most part? But chances they join you in almost everything feeling and activity you do around the house.
I’m going to come back to a point that I made earlier. Don’t let anyone tell you what the right way or the wrong way to recharge is. It’s not their choice to make, that just goes back to the not judging others post. But you have to do something for you each and every day, that’s all there is to it.
The point is, if all you do is run the rat-race day in and day out, then you aren’t living. Please remember, that if you have a family, they need you just as much if not more than your job needs you. You have to keep those home fires burning as well. All too many times I hear people talking about “I missed my kids such and such because I had to work late”, when in reality they volunteered to work late because all they live for is the almighty dollar, and didn’t have their priorities in order. I’m guilty of it also sometimes, but we all need to remember that your family needs you too. You have to make time for them, just like you need to make time for you, or your job. It’s very hard to juggle all of this, but if you’re doing it right, it can happen.
We all have those things in our minds that we dream about having or that we would like to do someday… and far too often we go back to that “can’t” word, and tell ourselves that we’ll never be able to do those things, or maybe someday after we retire we’ll be able to do that… why not right now? (Insert the excuses here) Most of us are afraid to follow our dreams because of what society tells us. Or maybe you fear that you would disappoint the old man by doing this instead of that. Scratch what society tells you, because there’s SO much more to life than what money can buy.
Let’s just say that you’re one of those people that likes to help everyone else… okay great! That’s great that you try to genuinely give to others and try to help as much as you can. But how in the world can you make anyone else happy if you don’t know how to make yourself happy? It’s a very simple solution, when you go to work, you have to remember to bust your ass day in and day out. But when it comes to playing… play like your life depended on it, because it does.
The bottom line is that like the saying goes, “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”, You have to know how to keep yourself from getting burned out… and working hard, and playing harder isn’t as complicated as it sounds.
Live strong, be happy, and fulfill your dreams. Remember to recharge.